Respect Over Likeability - Earning True Authority

In response to a question about whether managers should be liked or respected, Phil Shawe contends that respect is essential. He emphasises that respect is earned by being consistent, honest and fair, and by setting high expectations even when those expectations make you temporarily unpopular. Managers who chase likeability undermine their authority.

Focus

Respect versus likeability in management

Key takeaways

• Respect is more important than likeability; authority comes from consistency and fairness.
• Consistency, honesty and high standards earn respect even when decisions are unpopular.
• Chasing popularity undermines your authority and weakens your leadership.

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• Snippet: why respect matters more than likeability

Next-step doctrine

Identify situations where you prioritise being liked and adjust towards earning respect